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HEA for Trans Kids book bundle

I’m excited to be a part of HEA (Happily Ever After) for Trans Kids third book bundle that is available from now until Aug 1st. This one is raising money for the Zebra Coalition that helps LGBTQ+ youth in Florida.

You can get the bundle of 13 books here for a $25 donation: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/heafortranskids-zc

You can learn about HEA and get on their mailing list for all future bundles here: http://heafortranskids.com/

And you can learn about the work that the Zebra Coalition is doing here: https://zebrayouth.org/

My short story collection “Eye of the Beholder and other stories” is included in this bundle with a bunch of other really great-sounding stories from authors I’ve admired. I just got my bundle today and will start reading tonight.

This is an exciting process for me: getting into a book bundle, and using my writing to help a charity are both things I have wanted to find a way to do for a long time now. Doing both at once is just filling me all up, let me tell ya!

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Christmas Amigurumi #1 Bun Bun

Bunny Amigurumi

My niece has a sweet and beautiful grey bunny. A real, alive one. While I believe she likes attention, I thought it could still be fun to have a version that likes being hugged and squished and put wherever she might like, so I made a plushy version.

To save my life I cannot now find the pattern I used. I found one that was what I thought I used, but it’s a paid pattern, and I definitely used a free online pattern because I remember that the website had something blocking printing so I had to sit at my computer when I needed the next step and I had to keep the tab open for a week or so because I didn’t have the time to make it all at once. Also, I didn’t realise until I finished that the pattern didn’t include a tail so I had to improvise one becaue a bunny totally NEEDS a tail. If I can track it down I will edit this to include the pattern.

The other change I made was to use crazy bug fluffy yarn. It’s a size 7 yarn called Chinelle Home that I got at Michael’s. I wanted the bunny to be about life-sized so I used a small bunny pattern but enlarged it with a big hook and big yarn. Plus it is super soft super plush yarn. So snuggly.

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My Backyard Wildlife Camera

Our nighttime visitor, the rat

For my birthday last July, I got a wildlife trail camera. I wanted to see what critters were eating my pumpkins at night, and maybe try to get some cute bird pictures by putting it into a bird feeder or something. Even though I’ve had it awhile, I’ve only recently started playing with it.

The first visitor I caught on camera was maybe a little disappointing, but probably shouldn’t be surprising considering I live in an urban area (our tiny patio backs up to a shopping center, not wilderness after all). It’s a rat. I had thought maybe it would be an opossum, since we spotted one once out there, but no. I don’t know if this is what was eating my pumpkins last year, or my tomato recently, but it’s a suspect for sure.

I don’t think we will have a serious rat problem, because the next night, I tried out the video setting and it caught a different nocturnal visitor: (Note, WordPress won’t let me upload the video without paying them more money, so this is just a still from the video.)

a kitty visitor

I think it’s probably safe to say this is the most likely suspect regarding the destruction of my catnip plant last year. But I’ll always forgive the cute floof. (And I was able to save the plant, so there’s that.)

I was disappointed in the lack of bird visitors, or at least those the camera was catching. Then yesterday I got this photo:

Guess that bird! (Maybe pigeon?)

Not a great view, but at least verifies what we already knew – that birds do visit the yard. Maybe a pigeon? Hard to figure out size from this view. The beak looks not quite right for a pigeon. So I think my next experiment will be to put some seed out on the table and try to attract some birdy visitors.

For anyone interested, this a Wosports Trail Camera. Not too expensive and so far, easy to use. The settings are to take 1 photo when motion is detected, take a burst of 3 photos, or take a video and you can set the length of time.

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Writing and the Day Job

Many years ago I did something that I thought wouldn’t work, but has turned into something kinda great, and I wanted to tell this story so others might be able to use it. I was into writing as a serious hobby and was always thinking about it. One year, at my annual review at work I asked it I could start a staff newsletter. They said sure. Now it was only a couple extra hours a month, but it was regular paid writing and it felt wonderful.

Sometimes I really have a hard time coming up with new, interesting things to write about, and I’ll try to talk to management to see if there are topics they want me to cover, but generally I’m left alone to do what I want with it. I interview new employees to get to know them better. Run little surveys and make games out of the answers people send me. Try to throw in current news of the industry. And in the last couple years I’ve asked for book and TV show recommendations from the staff and include one a month of each.

Since I don’t get much feedback about what’s working and what isn’t, other than everyone telling me it’s great (I work with the sweetest bunch of folks!) I have lately just decided to keep myself entertained, and if I’m getting bored, then it’s time to change things.

So two months ago I decided to add a little fiction into the mix for fun. We have a hospital cat, and since we’ve been closed to the public and only doing curbside appointments she has been allowed to wander and have the run of the front office. I thought a fictionalized story of her imaginary adventure would be fun to write. This has been a huge hit with the rest of the staff. Last month, to encourage feedback, I decided to make it a choose your own adventure story and gave two options about what she would do next. I thought one choice was the obvious, fun choice so I already mentally planned out how that would roll into the next installment for this month and was kinda excited about it. Obviously, you know that means that the survey came back with 100% of responses choosing the other option. That’ll teach me to plan ahead.

The hospital owner enjoying what I’ve done has also led to me doing more writing. I did a press release when we moved into a new location and I’ve done some blog posts for the website and have been asked to do more. My biggest challenge now is myself. I get to do this writing work at home and I’m not as organized with my time as I need to be. I’ve set myself a time schedule and so far so good. I don’t always hit my goals but I’m doing much better than when I didn’t make any goals at all and would stay up into the wee hours to finish a newsletter before the end of the month. That wasn’t healthy for me and it didn’t produce my best work. This is an ever evolving place for me and if I come up with any wonderful productivity or time management tips, I will be sure to share.

I mainly wanted the throw this idea out there to other writers. I’ve learned that most other people hate to write. It’s a weird idea to me, but it’s true. If you love it, and offer to do it, people just might take you up on it.

Now to figure out how to continue that cat story. . .

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Some 2020 Accomplishments

The other day I was thinking about 2020, and instead of dredging up all the awful from the year, I wanted to think about good things that happened, or things I’m proud of. Because even in rough, uncertain, and chaotic times, good things can happen too, and I wanted to remember my personal achievements.

  • I started submitting stories again. Well, ok. . . just one story, and it has only gone out a couple times, but considering I haven’t submitted anything for years, this was a significant step for me. I have a second that will join it soon, and I have plans for more.
  • I had several good writing streaks. There was also time when I didn’t write. When I just wasn’t up for it. But I wrote more than I had in awhile, and when I wrote, I enjoyed it. So I believe the rests were necessary.
  • We started a family D & D game. This is something we’ve wanted to do for awhile, but none of us knew how to play, and were intimated at trying to start on our own. But there was a pandemic, so we couldn’t turn to strangers to learn. So we decided not to care if we were doing it ‘right’. We would just do it. Family fun is being had. I’m pretty sure we’re goofing a lot of rules up, but there is great serenity in not caring.
  • I have cleaned up and reclaimed my garden. This has brought me much more joy than I anticipated it would. Now i want to grow all the things, and somehow I keep finding space, but am bracing myself for when I can’t cram any more in. Not there yet though, so I keep calling the local nursery and checking if they have grapes in yet.

There might be more, but those are things that come to mind, and those are enough to make me happy and proud. I’m going to throw in a homeschooling tip here that I feel is connected. Starting in Kindergarten, I helped my girls make a scrapbook each year of things they had done. Family things, school things, personal things. Field trips, recitals, scout and club gatherings, birthday parties, artwork, etc. There is always a time when we felt we didn’t do enough. That we had used our time poorly, or goofed off too much. Then we would have the scrapbook. Looking through it always made them proud. Look at all they had done this year! Wasn’t it great? Remember that hike? Look how much my handwriting improved since September!

While caught up in the grind of life it’s so easy to forget how much you really do. The good things. I think it’s worth taking the time to remember them.

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Christmas Amigurumi 2020 #1

I decided to go back to the traditional route for my Christmas amigurumi this year. The first several years I made these, they were always Pokemon. For Mother’s Day, my sister got me several eeveelution patterns from Shea crochet. Maybe it was the Mother’s Day before last. Honestly, time has become meaningless, hasn’t it?

Anyway, I had been wanting to make them, and now was the perfect opportunity. They all turned out more time consuming and more complex than I had anticipated, or really had time for, but once I get an idea, I have trouble letting it go. So I plowed forward.

For my niece, I made Vaporeon. It was the easiest just because I didn’t have to hide it from my kids, and could work on it openly. It took me a little while to get the eyes and mouth to look the way I wanted. The face is so important to the finial doll. I also feel the side fins on her head are not as tilted up as they should be. It isn’t perfect, but I’m happy with the end result and she got a big hug when she was unwrapped (that I got to watch over Zoom. Thanks pandemic.)

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Relaxing with Romance

My roommate my freshman year of college was a huge fan of romance novels. I was (and am) a Sci-Fi and fantasy fan and had never ready any romance before. She was thrilled to have someone to introduce to the genre, and she gave me book after book. College, being what it was, I didn’t have much time for ‘fun’ reading, so I would save these books for after finials. I learned that romance novels were the perfect relaxation read after the stress of final exams. The stakes are generally low, and genre convention requires a happy ending, so the stress of reading was practically zero for me.

Since she only gave me books she was done with, and had enjoyed, my introduction to romance reading was a lot of really good books. She got me hooked on Outlander, for example, back when there were only two books in the series. Only years later, when I had to find my own romance novels did I stumble into the sorts of books that have given the genre a less positive reputation. Because even after I had long moved on to other housing situations, I kept my new habit of reading romance after finals to unwind, and destress. (Thanks Heather!) But I had to start paying attention to authors and publication lines because a story about a captive that fell in love with her rapist was defiantly not remotely relaxing. It was enraging. Yet those books were mixed in there, so I had to learn to be selective on my own.

After college, I returned to my science fiction because I had more time and mental and emotional energy for different stories again. I wish I could remember what I’d learned in that process of selecting romance novels now though. Because since Covid and shelter-in-place times, I have rediscovered the value or romance. I was having major sleeping problems. Anyone who has had sleeping problems knows that bad sleep just leads on to other life problems. One night I decided to read a romance that I’d picked up for free and had sitting on my kindle. I think it was The Governess Affair by Courtney Milan. It shut my brain up and let me drift off to sleep much more peacefully. I’ve since bough the rest of the series, and gradually worked through them at bedtime. There is enough plot to be interesting but not so much that I’m confused if I fall asleep in the middle of a chapter and have to figure out the next night what was happening when I drifted off. It’s perfect. But I guess I’m afraid for my new sleep routine when I run out of Courtney Milan books. Luckily we now have the internet to point me toward novels that will fill the role I need of them. My daytime books can be as intense as I want, but my bedtime books over the past few months have become something I guard, and am careful and very selective of.

Still, if you have a favorite romance book or author, please share it with me. I’ve moved on to fantasy comedy (Diskworld) for my bedtime reading, but I am having a little more trouble following the plot while sleepy. I plan to return to a romance read next again. More importantly though, one can never have too many stress reducing book recommendations to work through.

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Thoughts on home learning from a 12 year veteran homeschool parent

I’m grateful for the position my family is in regarding our kid’s education this fall. We homeschool, and always have. We use a charter, so we follow state education standards. We do the yearly state testing (except last sprig when they canceled it). But we have a lot of friends in the local homeschooling community and I know a lot of families who do things very differently. So I know there are so, so many options on how to educate a child.

Parents are being put in a bad place right now. I’m hearing a lot of politicians confidently say that schools will be open as normal in the fall. I see schools saying they are unsure if they can open safely, and they are working on systems and plans. More and more top universities are saying they will be offering only online classes for the fall. I’m grateful I don’t have to wonder who to trust, and what will be safe for my children. A luxury most parents don’t have. I want to share some thought to those parents who are considering keeping their kids home, but are daunted by the idea. Who think they aren’t qualifies or prepared to teach their child.

I hear a lot from non-homeschooling parents that they could never do what I do. I think people think I have the skills of a classroom teacher. I do not. Classroom teachers have to teach a group of 30+ children all at once despite them all working at their own levels. They have to juggle so much, and deal with parents and school board expectations on top. I have to help two students that I have known from birth, and understand very, very well. I can move the daily schedule, and even the calendar around to best suit our needs. If I don’t like a book or curriculum isn’t working for us, I can drop it right then, and do something else. Homeschooling is a picnic compared to teaching in a classroom.

Parents who were trying to quickly adapt to a distance learning situation last spring while also dealing with shelter in place orders and either working from home or doing essential work with all kinds of new rules (I was in this group) were not homeschooling. They were emergency pandemic schooling from home. High five to everyone who made it through that.

My oldest will be a senior in high school, and my youngest will be in 8th grade. So I will also have to luxury of not needing daycare for them on the days I work outside the home. We have been homeschooling forever, and they know how to learn on their own: they have spent their lifetime learning how. Anyone starting out won’t be able to jump in where we are and have it work. But if you don’t want to send your kids into a classroom this fall, you can find a way for them to learn at home. It really isn’t hard. It’s just something you aren’t used to because our society assumes you send your kids away to school, that’s just expected.

I know people who work full time and still make homeschooling work. They do school in the evenings and weekends – or at least the parts that need parental involvement. The younger your kids the more involvement they will need. And the littles will still need an adult with them during the day, and this is where it gets rough if the parents jobs are moving them back out of the house. I don’t know all the solutions to all the logistic problems you might have, but someone is doing what you want to do. I recommend finding local homeschool groups, and asking questions. You can ask me your questions too, and I’ll do my best. Google or Facebook groups are a good starting point to find them. The only reason I haven’t completely dropped Facebook is to stay connected to my local homeschool group. I’ll give this advice: unless you want to have a Christian influence include the word ‘secular’ in every search you do – for support groups, for books or curriculum, for everything. Even then some Christian slanted stuff will creep in, so check, but it helps.

On the plus side, homeschooling takes way less time than a traditional school day. There are no lines to form and wait in. No waiting for other students to finish something before moving on. No busy work. Young kids need 2 to 4 hours maybe, and my big kids finish a day’s work in 4 to 6-ish hours (the high end is for the high schooler and includes local community college classes she has taken since the 9th grade). Then they’re done. No ‘homework’ later. And in case you think they can’t be getting a good education, they always test well above standard on the state tests and the high schooler is acing her college work. Going to school does not equal getting educated. But I digress.

Every state will have its own rules for regulating homeschooling so that’s another reason to find local groups to guide you if you are considering this. For Californians, I can point you here for the basics. The California Homescool Network is another spot for info. And ask me questions! I can’t promise I’ll have all the answers, but I’ll do my best.

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Tiny Granny Square Afghan for the Cat Couch

Meeko on the Cat couch with the new afghan

I think it maybe could have stood one more row to make it a little longer, but it’s still cute. I never made a granny square before, so it was a fun thing to learn without getting embroiled in a big, time consuming project. The colors don’t show all that great, but you get the idea. I used a D hook ,and the smallest bay yarn I could find in my stash.

Cat Couch with tiny granny square afghan